I am too old for a show like this
"If you dont heal what hurt you, you'll bleed on those who didn't cut you"
The above quote was all I could think of watching this show. I just wanted to take Jihun by the hand and tell him to leave these assholes to their misery because that's what happens in life. Learn to love from a far. You can be compassionate without sacrificing yourself and I couldnt help but feel that, that was the direction this was headed in. Love conquers all.
Unfortunately it doesn't. There is a 50/50 chance of a relationship like this turning emotionally abusive.
The character I understood the most was the therapist who, was seemingly bad at her job but no. She was tired of the same story, over and over and over. You can't save people from themselves. In fact, many people dont want to be saved because their misery is all they know, so they just live there, ghosting, lashing out, avoidance, self destructive behaviours, all while hurting the people who love them.
After a certain age, you start choosing yourself over loving people like this.
The other factor in my lack of compassion, is what a lot of other reviews have stated. The editing. The first 2 episodes were beautiful, and then it started getting choppy. We jumped straight from ghosting to holding hands on a date. They just looked into each other's eyes and all was forgiven. Instincts or infatuation here? And if this editing style is to continue it's just going to create a further divide between my own emotional reasoning and my empathy for the characters because I feel like i'm hopping from one scenario to the next rather than walking with them through their pain.
Perhaps a few years ago, I would have enjoyed this. I understand it. I get it. I've lived and watch others live it. Every single person on this planet is carrying something, but relationship is never a crutch for your healing. You do not heal each other. When it becomes about mental health and trauma, it is truly solidary journey because only you are experiencing what you are experiencing and I don't find it romantic that someone is waiting for me to see through my issues.
Overall, I can see the appeal of a story like this, and I can understand why it's so loved but at the end of the day, between the disorientating editing and being through too much in my own life to feel tolerant, this just feels draining to watch.
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