I just finished this movie, and thought I need to write a review, as I feel the reviews here don't make this movie justice. This is not a bad movie. The title obsessed, illustrate well the main theme. It is about a forbidden love between two married people, a desire and obsession that consumes everything. It was sad and melancholic - the choice of classical music also enhanced this feeling. It is definitely a movie for mature audience, as it has very graphic sexual content, shows adultery, and touches upon complicated subjects like post conflict trauma. I also really liked the images of the movie, as they were very beautifully filmed. It is true that the two main leads had their flaws - the commander had lost his purpose in life after traumatic experiences in Vietnam, and the main girl did a marriage of reason also after traumatic experiences from her past. Both are adults who didn't experience true love, and they are overwhelmed by their own feelings. Overall I liked this movie, and I found that the actors played well.